I came across this movie on Netflix and decided to give it a shot. There were some awkward moments and sometimes it was too much 'I'm the bitch of the school' from Madison, but I enjoyed it. Wes is quite pleasing to look at. It made me think about my time in High School and how often I felt out of place. Be aware, I might ramble a little, but I just had a lot of feelings and thoughts. (D.U.F.F means Designated Ugly Fat Friend, the person who is least popular and more approachable in a group.)
This movie made me realize how easily we label people on our first impressions and by how little we know about that person. It also shows how we let other people's opinion influence us and define us by placing us in a box that does not entirely fit. It made me realize how much I cared about what other people thought about me and how much emphasis I placed on those labels when I was their age. Sometimes I've let other people decided how I felt about myself and I placed a part of my happiness in their hands - and some people were not worth that amount of importance.
It made me think back about the fact that I used to feel I should adapt to everyone around me. Despite the fact that it did not work, because some people are simply mean and hateful, I changed something vital about myself; instead of being entirely Mel, I was only the part of myself I thought others would like more, because she might fit in better. It took me a long time to realize that I should never try to fit in with people who could not accept me for who I am. I did not have to change myself, only the people around me. It is still scary and I still want everyone to like me, but at the end of the day I'm pleased with the person I am now. And you should be too!
In a way, The D.U.F.F made me think about This song will save your life. Elise was an outsider who tried to change herself, but eventually realized that she was good the way she was. She just needed to find the right people to surround herself with.
“You think it’s so easy to change yourself. You think it’s so easy, but it’s not. What do you think it takes to reinvent yourself as an all-new person, a person who makes sense, who belongs? They will still see past that, see you, the girl who is still too scared, still too smart for her own good, still a beat behind, still, always, wrong. Change all you want: you can’t change that. I know, because I tried.” - This song will save your life.
I also think it shows the fact how one word can mean a lot to someone and how it can influence their life. We see the effect of bullying and how this could easily ruin someone's entire life and reputation. More books and movies should express what an influence bullying can have on someone's life and personality. A lot of time it seems to be brushed away, but it can have serious damage and despite the light tone in this movie, I think it conveyed that message. We should all be able to express who we are without being judged by everyone and without feeling ashamed for who we are. Let go of the labels and simply embrace who we are, for who we are.
I think that this is the power of stories, whether they are told through movies or books. They make us think about important things, they tell stories that resonate with us and they make us realize we are never alone.
Did/Do you ever feel like a D.U.F.F?