Friday, May 20, 2016 20:44

Fairytale news | On the sidelines.

Mel on reading
This post ties in with my Feeling uninspired discussion last month. I talked about the fact that I still want to blog, but that I had no inspiration about what I wanted to write. I also mentioned that voice in the back of my head that wonders how much I contribute to the community. There are so many blogs and we are used as promotional tools, but hardly get any recognition for it. Last time there was another round of bashing and I'm sick of it.

There has been no change in this problem and I think I that's because that voice is the source of it: I feel like I am on the sideline. I've watched a few dramas from the distance and I never felt the need to speak up about it. A part of me simply because I am afraid of the backlash, another part of me because I don't really care enough to share my opinion. I have the idea I don't add anything to the discussion, so I just sigh and turn away. I feel like I should care more.

I feel disconnected from the community and I haven't found a way to change this. Every time I look on my Bloglovin' feed, I simply want to run away from all the unread posts. And when I start to comment, I ask myself why I put so much time in it; will people notice? It is the same with commenting on my blog: I feel it is more effort than it is worth.. And I used to be great at replying back.. I also would be lying if the declining amount of comments did not bother me. I am still happy with every comment I get, but it has definitely dropped. It's not strange, because I'm less active, but it's not motivating.

Every time I open Twitter and try to engage in conversations, I feel left out. It's like I am no longer part of it all and I hate this feeling, because I've never encountered this before. Is this how a true blogging slump feels like? For years I've been writing and posting without any effort. I used to comment every day and I was always up to date, but lately..

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I don't put any pressure on myself. I don't stress out over the fact I don't post as often as before. It's not like I am forcing myself to write posts and come up with ideas, because I seem to care too less - and I don't want that. I still have good blogging friends and I'm now catching up with reviews and review copies. For some reason it's just not as fun as it was. I'm not saying I'm going to quit, not at all! I'm planning to stick around for sure, but I need to find a way to get my excitement back. I think it is just a contemporary thing I need to get over.

I think I just need to branch out some more. Get back to talking about movies/TV shows, more Disney and fairytales (because you can't go wrong with those) and lately I've been REALLY thrilled about my venture into handlettering and hardcore bulletjournaling. I've been spending a lot of time on Instagram for those two, so I think I need to bring/incorporate it in my blogging life.

So please, my dear readers, tell me your tips and tricks against this type of slump.
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Mel@thedailyprophecy

Mel is a microbiology technician who is obsessed with Disney, fairytale retellings and fantasy. If she's not reading or blogging, she's either busy with gaming, hanging out with family or watching a TV show. She loves summer and bright nail polish. One of her dreams is to travel the world. She has found her Prince Charming and they are together for 7+ years.

26 comments:

  1. I have no idea what bulletjournaling is, but I hear a lot about it, and I would totally read a post about it. :p

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  2. Awwww Mel *hug* I don't know but that sounds like a true blogging slump to me. I never, ever get involved in blogger drama on Twitter. Yes, part of me fears the backlash, but a bigger part of me is just not a drama kind of person. I always joke that I'm drama free since '93 (mostly because it rhymes but the point stands) Yes there are some shitty things that happen to bloggers. Yes the jealousy about ARCs suck but I think that stuff will always be around. I just try to surround myself with like-minded bloggers and go from there ♥

    One thing about the blogging community though, is the minute you don't have time to be as active, your blog visits and comments decline. I wish that wasn't the case but I guess we all have a lot on our plates and only end up visiting who visits back for the most part. I do hope you find ways to get your inspiration back! Your ideas all sound good there and I know I'll never stop visiting as long as you keep posting! Hang in there Mel xxxxx

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  3. I really relate to your post so much. I went through something similar to this last month, where I had just zero motivation to write any blog posts. I felt disconnected from the blogging community, and felt like I didn't have anything new to add to the blogging world. I felt like other people were doing it so much better than I was, and my posts just weren't adding anything new enough.

    I think what helped me, is that I decided to focus on the things that I really loved about books, and not focus on trying to write the type of posts I thought other people would like, and just focus on the things I love. I'm doing an event on my blog now about MG books, which is something that I love, and I think that's helping me enjoy blogging again. I'm also planning on doing something that you mentioned in your post, talking about TV shows/movies that I love, and including some more non-bookish (And I agree, you definitely can't go wrong with Disney and fairytales!) things to my blog. (I'm not going to stop talking about books, just add some new things to the equation.)

    I hope you get out of your slump soon!

    And wow, this comment turned out way longer than I thought it would. Sorry I rambled so much! *blushes* :)

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  4. I'm very new to the community, so I can basically speak from the outside of book blogging. What I noticed is that it's very hard to get some engagement if you don't review 4 books a week or you don't tweet every time. Another thing I noticed in this niche (differently from the lifestyle/geek one I come from) is that very few people reply back if you leave comments (so don't feel too bad about it! :)) and, personally, it's a bit discouraging for me. When I feel burned out, I usually start thinking about the things I love the most to talk about and try to incorporate them into my blog schedule. Hope you'll find your way to come back blogging soon!

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  5. Aww. *sends hugs and chocolate sandwiches* I just want to let you know that YOUR VOICE DOES MATTER, OKAY?!? I think, technically, we all end up saying the same things at some point. I know I don't really talk about anything on my blog that hasn't been discussed before! And that's okay, because we're here for YOUR opinions on a topic. :D
    I do get the burn out feeling. *nods* I'm actually posting half as much as I used to now...and it actually makes me a little anxious, but at the same time I'm enjoying not having to stress out over blogging AS much. I think it's okay to take a hiatus if you need it! Or shake things up! And maybe don't try to play catch up for blog reading and such??? Just do what you can when you can and only click on the posts you think look interesting. :) DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP, MEL. YOU ARE FABULOUS. <3

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  6. Would it help to say that I have the same feeling? I scan my Twitter feeds and feel like I am reading more than engaging. I don't even try that hard to go and comment on blogs, and there are people so kind to keep commenting on mine. I'm not finding this as engaging and fun as I use to. I feel faded and worn out, and I'm not sure if I am ever going to come back feeling whole. Like you said, maybe it is time to branch out a bit. My biggest worry is that I'm not sure what else I feel so passionate about, like I do books. I watch some TV, but not a lot of others watch what I do. I thought about incorporating beauty information, but I hate recording myself and taking pictures. I have cats, but I use Instagram for them. So I'm not sure where I even fit in anymore.

    I'm very sorry to see that you have some of the same feelings. I wish I had some sort of advice or help, but I can't even help myself right now. I have always loved your blog and I enjoy you as a person, and whatever changes you make, I'll look forward to them, just to get to keep you around. :)

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  7. I love books (obviously), but I also love it when book blogs incorporate other things people like, especially TV shows, pretty pictures, and fairy tales, so you should definitely do what you want! I think I've found a good balance where I post what I want and only when I really want to, and it's working for me so far, even if I'm not posting as much. Ultimately, this is YOUR blog, YOUR space, and you should only push yourself to do things when you do feel inspired, even if that inspiration doesn't push you toward writing book-related posts.

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  8. i've been feeling this way lately too. i feel like it's just that time of year, i guess. my advice? find something to blog about that brings a spark to your eye, even if it's not book related. just do what you're passionate about and don't care what anyone thinks. relax and just kinda float in the waters where you are, enjoying the nice weather (sorry, that metaphor ran away with me, lol). you'll get back into it soon. as for feeling engaged in the community, maybe get to know some of the newer bloggers, who are bringing their own unique and new personalities and enthusiasm to blogging and social media, ya get me? their enthusiasm might rub off on you and you'll make some new friends on the way too!

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  9. Aw, Mel. You're not alone in this feeling! I think all bloggers have experienced this before, especially ones who are not naturally hyper-outgoing (like myself for example). But, it's totally normal and okay to feel this way.

    I wrote out this huge post and then deleted all of it because I realize that the entire point is this: Have fun.

    Why aren't you having fun anymore? What about book blogging stopped being enjoyable for you? Find out what it is and LET IT GO. This is not your job, lovely. This is supposed to be enjoyable. The biggest and best feature about the book blogging community is our enthusiasm and joy for reading. That is the BIGGEST ADVERTISEMENT for reading/literacy/books that we can give.

    You're in a very busy time of your life. There's TONS of stuff going on for you. New job, new house! If you're giving up enjoying thing because you feel like you "have to" blog, then that creates resentment, which creates unhappiness. What do you need for blogging to continue to be enjoyable for you? When you consider that and find the answer then you can decide how you want to change your approach, and you'll also figure out whether or not blogging is rewarding for you at all anymore.

    Your blog is one that I visit often. I check your twitter and your instagram and I do it because I enjoy your content. The fact that you don't post every day doesn't sway me, and I don't care about how many comments or likes you have on your posts/tweets/pictures. I also don't care whether you have something totally profound to say or whether you're talking about your pet fish (do you even have a fish? Anyway...). Don't care. I follow your blog because I think you have an unique voice in our community. Even if you feel like you're not being heard, you've got something to share (your passion and love for reading and being geeky!) and that's all you need.

    To tell you the truth though... people are listening to you. ;) They most definitely are.

    Lots of bloggy love to you, Mel. Hope you can find the fun again. <3

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  10. Ah dang, blogging slumps are no fun. I'm sorry you're dealing with this and feeling a bit left disconnected and uninspired. (Perfect gif selection there, BTW.) FWIW, I would enjoy reading about your thoughts on Disney and fairytale stuff!

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  11. I just got out of one Mel, so you are not alone! One thing I can say is that when it hits, it hits hard but at the same time, it's also a time for you to do ofher things. Which was what I did. I watched a few TV shows I've been dying to see, I did more instagram posts, I read more, I spent tine with family.

    Also not stressing out helps. We are certainly not required to post all the time so I limited the number of posts I did to 3-4x a week. If I could create a post, I still didn't stress out about it.

    For those blogs I followed that were piling up, I deleted the older posts and picked the ones I really wanted to read and comment on as a sort of 'catch-up' because then I would be spending all day just reading and commenting. I also think that sometimes I really have nothing to say, so I read and not comment. It certainly isn't a requirement to comment, but still appreciated.

    I also envy those you can come up with super awesome topics and manage to post, review, read, booktube, bookstagram, tweet and do all those things when I can't. I always think to myself that hey, they are super magical beings and I am a mere Muggle! LOL

    I think it is still good ro do things you love, maybe incorporate your new love for journaling and hand lettering to your blog? Or redesigning your blog? That seems to help, on my end at least!

    Hope you get outta that slump, Mel! *hugs*

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  12. I just got out of one Mel, so you are not alone! One thing I can say is that when it hits, it hits hard but at the same time, it's also a time for you to do ofher things. Which was what I did. I watched a few TV shows I've been dying to see, I did more instagram posts, I read more, I spent tine with family.

    Also not stressing out helps. We are certainly not required to post all the time so I limited the number of posts I did to 3-4x a week. If I could create a post, I still didn't stress out about it.

    For those blogs I followed that were piling up, I deleted the older posts and picked the ones I really wanted to read and comment on as a sort of 'catch-up' because then I would be spending all day just reading and commenting. I also think that sometimes I really have nothing to say, so I read and not comment. It certainly isn't a requirement to comment, but still appreciated.

    I also envy those you can come up with super awesome topics and manage to post, review, read, booktube, bookstagram, tweet and do all those things when I can't. I always think to myself that hey, they are super magical beings and I am a mere Muggle! LOL

    I think it is still good ro do things you love, maybe incorporate your new love for journaling and hand lettering to your blog? Or redesigning your blog? That seems to help, on my end at least!

    Hope you get outta that slump, Mel! *hugs*

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  13. Totally relate to this post! Blogging slumps seem pretty natural though they feel awful and unmotivating. As bloggers we kinda obligate ourselves to be up-to-date on everything: blogs we follow, news, social media feeds...there's a lot of energy that is put out there and sometimes that fear of missing out overwhelms us. My trick of staying happy or fulfilled or excited about blogging is to put as much fun into my stuff as possible, and focus a little less on others. Sometimes that means really not getting down about lack of comments, follows, likes, etc. It's rough when you put a post out there and think others will enjoy it, but there's just crickets. It's hard not to think is everyone on Instagram/ Snapchat, Tinder,etc. or is it me?

    Blog about the topics that make you happy. If it's bullet journaling, I say go for it!! If you still want to add blogs to the mix, maybe do some handlettering and bullet journals with books, quotes, etc. Follow your heart and stay true to yourself. :)

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  14. Awww.. I feel you I just returned to my blogging routine after 5 months such a long slump! :p
    The only thing I can suggest you is to start writing like lifestyle post some non bookish discussion topics because just posting bookish stuff all the time is really boring! Hope you come back soon! Just chill take a deep breath and take a week long break from blogging! ;) Thats all I can suggest!
    Haniya
    booknauthors.blogspot.com

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  15. I went through this a few years ago and realized that I just wasn't interested in what I was saying or talking about anymore. I like journaling just for myself to see what I am interested in, and then try to reflect that in my blog. I think that a lot of the time when I'm feeling like I'm in a slump, it's because I'm not talking about what I want to talk about, so maybe try to allow yourself to talk about broader topics.

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  16. I relate to this post. I have been going through this slump for the last year where I think it may be time for me to leave the blog behind. If you look at 2013 and 2014 compared to 2015 and 2016 you can see where my motivation changed. I just don't feel like writing posts very much and I don't know what to write about. I write posts when I feel like it, but not as often as I used to.

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  17. I love all of your bullet journal stuff on IG! It makes me jealous honestly, because I get stressed out about journaling, whether I'm "doing it right" haha and yours is so useful and gorgeous! I like seeing what you come up with :) I also agree that more Disney and more fairytales is ALWAYS a good thing (esp after the trailer today!!). The drama just exhausts me. And even if I had an opinion, I wouldn't want to share it on twitter. I try really hard to comment on posts and respond to comments on mine, but it does become a chore sometimes. And I get bummed when a post I really loved or work hard on doesn't get a lot of comments. But it happens and I'm still glad I wrote the post 98% of the time. I hope you find your groove! I'll always talk fairy tales and Disney with you :)

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  18. Awwwww. I can definitely understand this about blogging though. I really hate the drama that comes what feels like every day now, and sometimes it's just so saddening to go on Twitter and see it all over my feed (although I have cleaned it up a bit so it is better). I think in the end, what really draws me back is the people and my friends. I actually love commenting on blogs, but I won't comment on a post when I have nothing to say! I think that's what really burns people out! But not commenting is also totally fine too. People should know by now that things come up, and so you shouldn't beat yourself over it, or blame yourself for not being motivated. It happens! You should be able to do what you want!

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  19. To be honest I often feel the same way. Demotivated, not having that drive anymore, can't be bothered to post comments on blog posts I really like, and then seeing that translated into fewer comments on my blog and fewer views, and it demotivates you even further.. I do hope we get out of this slump! It's no fun. *hugs*

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  20. Oh, sweet girl. <3 Thank you for sharing your feelings. All the hugs. Just want to say that I think you are amazing. And you matter to me. I love reading your posts. And I love getting comments from you, which doesn't happen all that often, hih, but always special to me :) And I love seeing you on twitter. <3 Would love to talk to you more on there. Hugs. I also feel the same way as you do. You still get so many comments. I get even less. And it feels a bit sad. And I also feel that I don't matter. Especially with the latest twitter drama, where everyone was hating on me :\ Sigh. Makes me wonder sometimes why I'm doing this. But I also never think about stopping. Because I love reading. And I love love love writing reviews, lol :) I just wish people talked to me more. And I wish they commented more. Sigh. But yeah. I'm dealing with it :) I hope it will get easier for you too. <3 Hugs.

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  21. Mel, I think you've summed up every fear and anxiety I have so beautifully. It must have been just as hard to write this post as well, so all the kudos to you!

    I've just started blogging again after a veeeeery long hiatus and it's great, but also difficult, to find myself getting back into the swing of things when there's already such amazing content out there, and I feel like I'm sitting on the sidelines with my pom poms and realising that my voice isn't as loud as everyone else's and I'm not getting heard. On top of that, I don't know aside from reviews what to post (and memes like Top Ten Tuesdays), because I feel like most content has already been covered - and that I don't have a big enough fan base to warrant any discussion at all.

    Basically, I feel like I've wrapped myself in a bubble and I don't know how to pop it. I'm slowly noticing a small increase - people whose blogs I've commented on are commenting back on mine. I'm trying not to get too anxious about "butting in" on twitter and commenting on a thread or a conversation. I'm trying not to let the numbers bother me, but I guess it's always a little niggle in the back of my mind. I think as long as I do try to make an effort, it will be returned back eventually.

    Also, if it makes any difference - I remember from waaaay back years ago that you'd always make an effort commenting on other blogs - even the smallest of blogs, if there was one comment it was always Mel from the Daily Prophecy, and I think that's where you've built your legacy; not that we can always count on you (sure, I guess that's part of it), but your willingness to be involved in the community and spread the joy through to everyone, big or small! <3

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  22. Mel, I absolutely love your blog and the posts that you share with us on the blog! Please don't be too hard on yourself about not being a part of the community and not receiving too many comments. I think it goes on peaks and troughs, sometimes we get heaps and other times no matter how much we comment back it just doesn't happen. I don't stress about commenting back frequently anymore, I couldn't deal with the amount of pressure I was placing myself under. Just be the awesome you.

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  23. Mel, I absolutely love your blog and the posts that you share with us on the blog! Please don't be too hard on yourself about not being a part of the community and not receiving too many comments. I think it goes on peaks and troughs, sometimes we get heaps and other times no matter how much we comment back it just doesn't happen. I don't stress about commenting back frequently anymore, I couldn't deal with the amount of pressure I was placing myself under. Just be the awesome you.

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  24. Mel, I absolutely love your blog and the posts that you share with us on the blog! Please don't be too hard on yourself about not being a part of the community and not receiving too many comments. I think it goes on peaks and troughs, sometimes we get heaps and other times no matter how much we comment back it just doesn't happen. I don't stress about commenting back frequently anymore, I couldn't deal with the amount of pressure I was placing myself under. Just be the awesome you.

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  25. First, I just wanted to say that I fully believe your voice matters <3 It might not seem that way to you, but I most certainly find that it does! And second, I think incorporating your other interests into your blog (especially bullet journaling, for instance, which I'm loving on your IG) can be a great way to fight against the slump you're feeling. It'd be fun for you too, I'm sure :)

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