Fairytale news | The Hard life of a reader.

'Mel on reading' is a little feature I created as part of my Fairytale news. It's my way to show my thoughts on topics that go from pet peeves in reading to my favorite things in books.

There are moments in my life where I’m just disappointed by humankind. Okay, this might be a bit exaggerated, but people say and do stuff that makes me sad. I’ve always been a passionate reader and it always hurts me when people talk bad about readers. These are some of the things I hear/see often. I decided to give it a shot with GIFS, because I love reading those type of posts.


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This makes my heart cry. People who think reading is boring are doing something wrong in my eyes. This is a quote I’ve seen floating around on the internet and I think it’s very accurate: “Everyone is a reader.. Some just haven’t found their favorite book yet.” I think most teenagers are far too busy with other things and that is why they forget about books. I’m so happy that my parents gave me the opportunity to read many books and to visit libraries – and that the love for books only grew to the passion I feel today. Reading makes me feel complete and I wouldn’t be the person I am today without books.

Naamloos
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And because many people believe reading is boring, you are often alone in your love for them. I’m the only reader in my house and I sometimes miss the feeling of a book friend. I wish there was someone in real life I could talk to. I want to discuss about favorite parts or things we dislike. I sometimes get my sister or boyfriend to read, but that is very rare. I can talk to him about it and he always listens, but having feedback or a conversation about the depth of a book would be fun. That is why I’m so happy that I’m part of this blog-book-community. It’s possible to talk with SO many people and I feel connected with all of you guys.

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We all have our favorite books. The ones that made you feel all these feelings. The books that got a special place in your heart. You want to scream your love from the roof and force everyone to read this book. And then there is the day you read a review from someone who disliked that book. They hate the characters you dearly love, they find the plot boring and they dislike the writing-style. Everything you admire about that book goes to waste for that person. It’s extremely painful for me when this happens and I’m always lost when I come across such a review. I don’t know what to say to them and I don’t understand how it’s possible that they can’t see what I see.

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This is a bit similar to the point above, but there are sometimes people who just refuse to read your favorite book(s). That is the moment where I feel violent, because I want to shove my book down their throat. JUST READ AND LOVE IT ALREADY. Pretty please?

Naamloos
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It’s funny how some people think of us. What do they expect? That we lock ourselves up in a tower with only books and no social contact? Alright, part of it is pretty accurate (I like to stay in my room surrounded by my books), but I do other things too! I prefer to spend my time to read books, but it’s not like someone is forcing me to pick them up. It’s almost like someone can’t believe it’s my number one thing to do – like I can’t come up with another hobby. I watch movies and TV shows, I go out with my boyfriend, I have fun with friends. It’s not like I am boring because I love books.

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This is something I’ve seen around on blogs for a while now and I thought I should include it in my list as well. For example: Eve from Paper Sanctuary has a great discussion post about it. Imagine that you are in a very exciting part. Just when things are starting to look bad, someone enters your room and starts to talk. It’s probably because they haven’t seen your book, but when you give them a hint by pointing to your book and giving them THE look, they keep talking. I seriously don’t get it. Most of the time I continue reading (and therefore, hear nothing of their story) but this has gotten me into troubles before, haha. I wish someone would respect me and ask if they can talk to me, before they start to blabber. Can’t you see I’m in the middle of something?

PS: I do like to see different opinions about books and I can understand that people don't want to read the same books. You can't always like the same things and everyone can have their own opinion. But sometimes it's just hard ;) I respect everyone and their own opinion.

Do you ‘suffer’ from these things as well? Are there more things that makes your life as a reader difficult? I might use your ideas for another edition (with credits of course)

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  1. “Everyone is a reader.. Some just haven’t found their favorite book yet.”

    I love that! And I agree that there is more to us than just reading. Although I am a bit of a hermit, and would rather spend my weekend indoors with a good book, it doesn't mean that I don't have other interests. I get called antisocial about a million times a day by my family, but I like to think that they just don't understand. ;) Great post, Mel!

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    1. I spend my weekend on my bed, reading books instead of having a party. I guess some things they think about us are true :p but that doesn't make us boring anti-social freaks, right!

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  2. Great post! So many people I know don't like reading and I just don't understand how.. And that quote is just so true, I didn't really care for reading until I read The Hunger Games, after that I just couldn't stop reading:)

    Eveline's Books

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    1. It's great that some books can open our eyes for reading :)

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  3. J.K. Rowling said that quote, right? I totally agree with that one. I hadn't know I was a reader-reader until more than two years ago. I really don't like it when you say you love books people thought you are boring and doesn't have any social life. :( As for those who don't like the books I love or don't want to read them, well, they're entitled of their own opinion but I could really try to convinced them by giving out what they should consider with it. Great post, Mel! :)

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    1. Haha, I know. I will add a little PS at the bottom of my discussion to make that clear. Everyone can have their own opinion of course!

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  4. Oh, I agree with everything!!1 I started reading seriously about two years ago, spending all my money on books and I got constant mocking from my older sister and my cousin - they both prefer to go out with big crowds, but I get claustrophobic (so many people are breathing my air!). I've been called a freak and a loner so many times by people who think it's freaky that I read that I've lost count already - and I don't bother myself with reacting in any way. The fact is, I'd much rather grow up reading and having peace than drinking myself until I pass out.

    I also get really discouraged when someone doesn't like a book I like, but I respect other people's opinions. Thankfully, though, a few of my friends read books, too, though not as much as I do. We can discuss it, but they don't fangirl like I do, so I spare them the punishment ;D

    Anyway... I think this comment got long enough! I agree with everything you pointed out. And thanks for linking my post <3

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    1. Exactly! I've never been much of a drinker and I honestly don't think my life would be any better with passing out and losing my memory.

      I do respect them, but it's just so hard when someone doesn't appreciate a book the way you does.

      You're welcome :D You get the credits, because it was your post that made me remind of interrupting people.

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  5. Some of these make me extremely grateful to be a blogger so that I can share my love of books with other people.
    I hate it when people say they won't read a book. I'd like to think that I'm game for anything, with a few exceptions.

    Great post!

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    1. I believe I'm in for many different books as well :)

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  6. My brother does the last part just to annoy me. He sees the book, but he'll disregard it. (He's a non-reader. Sparknotes and movies were his BFFs throughout school. He also has mild ADHD so focusing that long on something is ... hard?)

    My reading has kind of become a joke among the family. I do other things, but they refer to my room as my reading cave o.O.

    One of my other brothers also says the same about reading being boring. He *forced* himself to read the Harry Potter books. I wish I knew what book I could give him - to fulfill that quote.

    And heee, I'm in the middle of reading your rec. Don't go Sheldon on me :) :).

    ^-- That's actually my favorite part. Sharing my books with others. A bunch of friends have various books of mine still in their possession, but I love it because I get to badger them about the books. They ask, "are you sure it's okay for me to keep it? I might not get to it for a while?" Don't worry. It's all a part of my diabolical plan to discuss with you :).

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    1. Haha, reading cave, I like the sound of that :D

      I won't go Sheldon on you ;) Unless you hate the book, then I'll cry silently :p

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  7. I totallhy agree with everything you said. I'm the only reader in my household too! It's so tough :P And yes, if it came to it, I WILL shove my favourite book in my friends' eyes so they can read it. I just hate it when something refuses for the hell of it.

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  8. I love your post!! And seriously, this is something that pretty much every reader deals with! I mean, people always stare at me funny when I mention how many books I read and that really, buying 10 books won't last me all year. Or even all month sometimes.
    And ugh! Why they imagine readers are sad loners is mindboggling! I mean sure, sometimes I'd rather just stay in and read, but I love doing this with other people as well!

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    1. Yes, I don't know why readers get the 'boring, sad loners' stamp..

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  9. Agreed. I grew up with a mother and grandmother who were always big readers, and they passed that on to me. I've also had friends who read most of the time in my life, so that wasn't a problem. There were people in class who didn't get it though and made fun of me when I came back from the libary with books stacked up to my chin... but I liked making their jaws drop when I brought those books back a week later. They couldn't believe I read that fast :P

    Anyway, it also hurts me when I see someone write a bad review for a book I loved. Most of the time, I just stop reading that review when I realize what's going on. They're entitled to their opinion but that doesn't mean I have to read it and feel bad.

    OMG I love that Shut It gif!! XD I hate it when people start blabbing at me when I'm reading. I still go with the 'ignore' bit ;)

    Great topic for a discussion!

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    1. I recognize myself in that. We always went to the library with school and I took about the double amount of books with me - and I was finished before they were.

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  10. I've seen all of these and have been on the other end as well sometimes. Like EVERYONE loves The Hunger Games, but for me it was so-so. There are other books that I loved that some don't and vice versa. I do wish my husband read more because I would love to talk about books more with him, but I do have some close friends and a sister that I can talk books with and love doing so. My blog is really my big place to share though and I love having that outlet! Great post!

    Tressa @ Tressa's Wishful Endings

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    1. It's great that you have people you can talk to! I like to talk about books with my boyfriend and he always listens, but feedback would be fun now and then.

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  11. hahaha i loved this!! Well, yes, a lot of people find reading old fashioned which is STUUPID!! They make it sound like "woah... there are still people out there who read" lol! Poor you for being the only reader at home! I'm glad I have my sister who I ALWAYS talk books with! Feel free to tweet me @froggyfay anytime love! I AGREE! I like to stay at home sometimes than go out, but that does NOT mean I don't have a social life either.. sheesh!! Loved this post Mel! Great job!
    - Farah @ MajiBookshelf

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  12. I love being on the internet myself with all these book friends I have made. I don't have anyone in real life to talk about books with. I wish I did. My husband does read but not as much as I do.. I tell him about books and he takes a few years to read them so by the time he does I have forgotten a lot of details to discuss with him! ERRRRRR Someone told me the other day reading is just not popular anymore and soon no one will read. WHAT!!!

    Angie
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    1. OH NO. The world is going to be a dark place if it looses it's readers..

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  13. I love this post! It's hard for me at school sometimes to share my love for books so openly, but I do it anyway despite what some biatches think. (they think I have no life, I just laugh at them because THEY have no life, lol)

    Like I said, awesome post, Melanie! <33

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  14. Love this post, Mel! I totally agree with you! You know i can only talk to people about books online, because I don't have anyone in my everyday life to share my love of books with! Sad and depressing! At least when my kids are grown up I can chat with them, they already adore books. Thanks for sharing this! :) x

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    1. I'm happy with the knowledge that readers continue to make readers :D

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  15. I've tried to share my favorite books with my IRL BFF and she always dislikes them...says that YA books are too young for me and are terribly written. She only reads cozy mysteries and romance so I'm not sure that we'll ever agree on what is "well written"...I've given up trying to talk to people around me and have gotten content with talking to all of my online book friends! Great post ;-)

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    1. Nooo, that is another thing I hate. YA doesn't stand for immature books :(

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  16. I HATE when I am obviously reading and someone interrupts to ask 'what are you reading?' etc. Like I am being anti-social etc. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
    Great post!

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  17. Amazing post Mel. <3 I agree about everything. I'm the only one who reads in my house, and my family don't really get it. Especially since I read in English, when we are Norwegian :) They aren't mean or anything about it, though. <3 And my grandma next door reads, although Norwegian romance/fantasy books :)

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    1. I'm Dutch and most of the things I read and buy are English books as well. My family is never mean either.

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  18. I think I'm very lucky, because everyone in my family is a reader (although my dad only reads non-fiction...) so we know not to disturb the other unless it's really important. And most of my friends are readers too. As for strangers, I can't say I care much whether they are readers or not. But not-readers are definitely missing out. But that's their loss.
    I'm so with you on reading negative reviews of books I loved. I can't stand hearing bad things about my favorite books. It physically HURTS!!!

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    1. Ohh, that sounds very nice! I'm happy that you are surrounded by readers :D

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  19. Yes! This post! Whenever I hear someone say that reading is boring, my automatic reaction is to think that they're joking. I mean, seriously? Reading is boring? I don't think so. I also get really sad when I read reviews saying that they really didn't like one of my favorite books. I would never argue with them, and I respect their opinion, but when a book has really touched you, it's hard not to feel sad--both because the book is/characters are so special to you and because that person won't get the same joy you had over the book. Great post! :)

    Alice @ Alice in Readerland

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    1. Thanks Alice. I agree, I don't get why someone would think reading is boring.

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  20. I have this problem too - I don't have enough reader friends irl and it makes me sad. Or angry, if they decide to start bad-mouthing reading. And what's funny is that a lot of them are fans of things like Game of Thrones. And what was that originally? Oh yeah, a book.

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    1. That is a great point! I think I'm going to use that one for my next edition. *writes down with credits to you*

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  21. It annoys me to no end when I'm reading my book, all happy as a lark, when someone sits next to me and just starts talking (like at work). Or worse, when my family tells me to stop reading. Um, hello? I don't tell you to stop doing something, don't tell me what to do. SIGH.
    But I love that one quote: “Everyone is a reader.. Some just haven’t found their favorite book yet.” So true.

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    1. Telling someone to stop reading is the same as telling someone to stop breathing!

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  22. I can't stand it when people see me reading and assume I'm doing nothing so they try to start a conversation. At first I tried to give them the hint without being rude and then realized THEY are the ones being rude, not me. It is hard sometimes being a reader, but I wouldn't give it up for the world. Great post! :)

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    1. Me neither, reading is what I love the most :)

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  23. Ugh I can completely relate! Growing up both my mom and grandmother were avid readers so there were always books laying around. I was encouraged from an early age to discover books I liked and would often be treated to trips to the local book store. I simply DO NOT get people who don't read, or think readers are weird or have 'nothing better to do' than read! Readers do have lives but often times they CHOOSE to read.

    It also hurts/annoys/upsets me when people don't like a book I LOVED or just flat out refuse to read it.*headdesk* I get really defensive and I have to just stop thinking about it lol

    And about when people start talking to you when you're clearly reading. HUGE pet-peeve! Great post Mel :)

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    1. It's great that you grew up with two booklovers :D!

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  24. 1. Reading is boring- From time to time, I do come across with these people who scoffed at my reading. But because I'm already tired of explaining to them the wonders of book reading, I just shrug them off. However, when I was around 10 or 11 years old, I really thought that reading is boring and vice-versa.

    2. I don't like that book- When I was younger (particularly if it's related to Harry Potter), I would really get pissed if I saw someone demeaning it that the poor series was transformed into rubbish after all the mob of angry haters had their say. But as years passed by, I learn to accept them and what's even more funny is that I am amused about how they dissected and cursed every inch of the book. And being not affected by these haters is sooo Winning.

    3. I don't want to read it- It's not really my thing to force someone into reading my favorite book. A lot of my friends aren't book addicts. But from to time, they read books but those are self-help or spiritual or inspirational or true to life stories which I really don't like. What if our situations are interchanged and they force me into reading those? Please kill me now, maybe.

    4. Don't you have anything else to do- Luckily for me, I have a younger sister who shares my passion for reading. And my mother is pretty supportive about this hobby lest I go back to my more destructive hobby which is hardcore playing Multi-massive online role playing games.

    5. I see you are reading but I'm going to talk to you anyway- Happens to me always especially if my Mother is around. No one can really stop her from talking to me even if I'm immersed in a book. Even my friends do this and I just don't have the heart to shut them out. So I've learned to live with it.

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    1. Thanks for your long reply Charlotte! I love to read response like this. I know that feeling when it comes to Harry Potter. I'm definitely in the "haters gone hate" mode. And all right, I agree about that. I can see that you don't want to read those books either, but sometimes it's just hard because you want them to love it as much as you do.

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